Our little lucky fin is coming on in leaps and bounds. She turned one this month and has developed a love for books, dogs and standing up unaided.
She’s been developing fine motor skills with her left hand, turning pages on board books, picking up little bits of food etc. Despite this, she is a little behind her peers on hand-related milestones. She doesn’t point, wave or clap yet, but it’ll come when she’s good and ready and in the mean time you should see her holding multiple toys like a pro!
Perhaps one of the biggest surprises for us, is that she’s started using her right foot in lieu of her hand sometimes. This was picked up by the paediatrician a few months ago, but at the time I wasn’t completely convinced. I didn’t think she’d need to use her foot because she has a full arm, but it’s very difficult to ignore now. She’s got a baby laptop and uses the mouse, which is on the right hand side, with her foot rather than her lucky fin. She was banging and spinning her drum with her foot today. Although I’m yet to successfully catch her on camera!
We’ve been thinking a lot about representation too. Confidence in the face of unwanted attention is something I’m keen to build in her from the start. I never wanted to stand out as a kid and, as she’s not really got the option of blending in, it’s important that she feels equipped to deal with any questions or comments. After a few difficult incidents (you can read about those here and here), it became clear that I too need to find a way of dealing with these experiences. In the soft play a few weeks ago a girl grabbed her little hand and pulled it towards her to look. I’d love for our lucky fin to be able to handle situations like that with grace and assertiveness. Seeing people like her on TV, in magazines and in regular play dates with our wonderful local Reach family are all a huge part of that.
Toys too are a key part of a child’s life, and youngsters should be able to see themselves represented in their play things. I have to admit I’ve wondered if melting the hand off a toy doll would be an effective way of making it like her. Although this is a rather gruesome contemplation at the moment and I can’t help but think of Sid from Toy Story! However, she received a gift for her birthday last week, which needed no modifications.
Please meet out first lucky fin dinosaur, who was made bespoke with a limb difference just like our girl’s!
Even though she’s probably not aware even of her own difference yet, let alone the dinosaur’s, she was still fascinated by its arms.
I really look forward to using her lucky fin dinosaur, as well as some of the awesome picture books we have, when her questions start coming.